There is something that has bothered me for a long time, and I finally decided to write about it.
I listen to extreme metal, especially Behemoth and Belphegor. As soon as some people find that out, they immediately start making assumptions about who I am. They judge my personality, my values, and even my character based only on the music I enjoy.
The funny thing is that I discovered Behemoth in a very unusual way. One day, out of pure curiosity, I searched for "Satanic hymn" on YouTube. One of the first results was "Ora Pro Nobis Lucifer" by Behemoth. That search eventually led me to songs like "The Father O’ Satan O’ Sun", and from there I became interested in the band’s music. What caught my attention wasn’t the lyrics at first—it was the incredible musicianship, the atmosphere, the powerful vocals, the drumming, and the overall composition.
Later, I also discovered Belphegor, another band whose music I genuinely enjoy for its intensity and technical quality.
I completely understand that extreme metal is not for everyone. Some people dislike the lyrics, others dislike the vocals, and that’s perfectly fine. Everyone has different tastes, and I respect that.
What I don’t understand is why some people think the music I listen to defines who I am. Listening to a band does not automatically mean I agree with every lyric or that I live according to the themes they explore. Art can be appreciated in many different ways.
People don’t usually assume that someone wants to become a serial killer because they enjoy horror movies. They don’t assume someone believes in magic because they read fantasy novels. Yet, when it comes to extreme metal, many people immediately jump to conclusions.
If you want to know who I am, talk to me. Judge me by the way I treat people, by my actions, and by my character—not by the bands in my Spotify playlist.
You don’t have to like Behemoth or Belphegor. You don’t even have to like metal. I simply ask that people stop reducing others to stereotypes because of the music they enjoy.
Music is one of the ways I express myself, but it is not a complete definition of who I am.
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7 responses to “There is something that has bothered me for a long time, and I finally decided to write about it.”
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Yep. I agree to all these points.
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no one can prove that they are better than you. and what you watch, what you listen to, what you read can have effect on you but that doesn’t mean that someones have right to put you in a frame even without discovering you only by your taste. that’s helarious about those who do it to you.
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I 100% agree to Ferre. And as for me, I like all kinds of music, but if it’s something that someone didn’t like a peace om music, I would not make assumptions like that. People these days, I tell you.
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Your dad gave you wise advice. I completely agree. Music is a form of expression, not a definition of who we are. Thanks for sharing your experience.
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Never judge a book by its cover. That’s what my late dad used to tell me and that norm has stuck with me for 12 years now. I listen mostly to very sad music, and people like to call me emo/depressed and other things.
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Exactly. That’s my point. People should be judged by their actions, not by the music they listen to.
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why all the asumptions? People are different in there own way, and that says a lot
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